The Coil

Innalillahi wa inalillahi rojiun….

Pagi in saya bangun dan seperti biasa mengecek berita dari KOMPAS on line mengenai berita dari kampung halaman….
Berita terbesar; penyanyi Chrisye telah wafat……meninggalkan dunia seni Indonesia dan dunia fana ini.
Seperti yang mengenal beliau dari dekat, saya terhenyak dan rasanya ingin menangis……We are talking about CHRISYE….siapa sih yang tidak kenal beliau?? Sosok yang bersahaja, sederhana, tidak neko dan aneh-aneh untuk seseorang yang terkenal seperti beliau….

Chrisye adalah penyanyi favorit saya sejak kecil. Dalam usia ini, saya sangat dekat dengan karya seni (musik, film, puisi) dari tahun 70′an dan 80′an….dimana karya seni Indonesia sedang jaya-jayanya! Golden kids like Guruh, Eros Djarot, Teguh Karya, Rendra, Christine Hakim, Warkop DKI, Slamet Rahardjo, Harvey Malaiholo, Alex Komang, Benyamin S, Buya Hamka ( I think he was an artist too on religous part), Romo Mangun, dan lain-lain. Lagu dan film ataupun puisi dari jaman tersebut tidak hilang dalam ingatan dalam sebulan, legends not a pop karya.
Chrisye dekat di hati saya karena dia menyanyikan sound track film Badai Pasti Berlalu yang hampir semua lagu dalam soundtrack tersebut adalah lagu favorit saya. Saya pernah menonton film tersebut, sedih sekali jalan ceritanya….tapi lirik lagunya sangat puitis (thanks to Eros Djarot), penuh harapan tapi dalam saat yang sama lirik beberapa lagunya menggambarkan kedukaan….Jangan coba dengar lagunya kalau lagi berduka atau cuaca lagi mendung, ditanggung langsung menangis sesegukan deh!!

Saya membeli CD BPB yang baru diaransir oleh Erwin Gutawa (genius) yang direkam di Australia. Penyanyi pendukung antar lain Waljinah, Nicky Astria, Berlian Hutauruk…ditimpali kidung keroncong dan musik traditional Indonesia….Super song!!!!!!

Saya putar Cd tersebut, sepertinya saya menyanyikan farewell song untuk Chrisye….ingat kampung halaman, ingat kisah jaman baheula, ingat masa sekolah dulu, ingat masa innocent….ah sweet bitter memories…..

Saya berkabung.

Selamat jalan Chrisye….
Allah SWT memanggilmu untuk berpulang kesisiNya karena Allah mencintai umatNYA yang berbudi baik.
Semoga arwah dan amal baikmu diterima disisi Allah SWT….
Amin………………..

mErPatI PutIh
Mengering sudah bunga di pelukan
Merpati putih berarak pulang terbang menerjang badai
Tinggi di awan, menghilang di langit yang hitam

MaTAhArI
musim berlalu resah menanti
matahari pagi, bersinar gelisah
kini semua bukan milikku
musim itu telah berlalu
matahari segera berganti

kapan badai pasti berlalu
resah aku menunggu
kapan badai pasti berlalu
badai pasti berlalu

Well, live is back to normal again except this time I have one more life to take care.

Zara is pretty much peaceful, she is only awake when she is hungry or her diaper is dirty. Or she just being fussy for a bit.
Sometimes I found my self really lonely, last week was even worse, I missed my mom very much and really wanted her company here. Just to chat, you know….I think about her a lot after what I have been through to take care Zara 24/7…really take a lot of energy and my hormones changes not helping at all.
I could, suddenly, cried for no reason…the house seems so empty…Aaahhhhh..
Maybe that Baby Blue bug still wondering around in my mind. But, things are better lately. I handle Zara much better and she already set her pattern of sleeping and awake, which is almost every 3-4 hours. I still have to  get up after midnight but it usually only for two or three times. 4 hours sleep is better than none at all.

Friends and my in laws still offering their help. Zam and Jojo came by two weeks ago brought some food, then Jennifer and Nicolette came by on Tuesday brought some food, Then last Sunday, mom and dad stop by with yummy lunch. Susanna made me Chinese herbs stuff for post patrum remedy…She sent me chicken and rice the other day…Yumm….So, I shouldn’t felt abandoned (huh…) or isolated…hehehe…People still have LOL for me….
Another this is that spring is already here….The day is full of sun light and to see the soil covers with green grass again is so refreshing……

So, last Sunday, we went to the Plaza to have drinks in the Starbucks and did window shopping a bit. I went to Banana  Republic, one of my favorite store…Tried couple of dresses and tops….Yucks….I realized that my humongous breast which full of milk are on the way. I hardly fit the clothes because my breast are too big now. ….Hahaha…..
But what was interesting for me that people do staring at my chest a lot. Men and women..hahaha…..not the weird stare though, but kind of  "Wow…nice" stare….. Maybe they thought I have fake boobs, kind of nice though to have quite a big chest…..I will see how much they would shrink after I’m done with breast feed….Ohhhhh………
Society still think that big breast is attractive!! No wonder those Victoria’s Secret girl get huge pay….

Well, I am still worry about my excess fat though…..I don’t want to start exercise yet because I have to wait after my six weeks check up with my Ob doctor.  Until then , I just have to ignore my chubby belly …hehehhe………

Taking care of Zara lately, it reminds me of how my mother taking care of me.

Baby is literally helpless creature and you have to do it all for them. Feed them, clean them, soothe them. Waking up at night, restless day, unshaped body, baby blues, leaking breast. Cooking, cleaning, shopping grocery, doing laundry.
Missed friends gathering, no more super spicy food, well…the list will seem to be continue….

That is why in Hadist it said that "Your paradise in underneath your mother’s feet"

Seringkali airmata meleleh kalau ingat pengorbanan ibu.
Apalgi kalau jauh begini….Jadi kawan-kawan, sayangi dan hormatilah ibu dan bapakmu. Tanpa kasih sayang mereka, kita tidak akan menjadi manusia berguna.

She is here!! In fact, she is lying on her crib as I writing this post.

Well, I want to write about the whole process because I am still in awe mood about the miracle of giving birth! Even at this time my whole body feels like I just got hit by a car. Every inch of my body is sore!! Especially since my breast started to produce milk just yesterday. Both breast swelling and hard as  a rock!!

Anyway…………

It was Monday evening after Phillip came from work, he suddenly asked me to walk around at ZonaRosa (shopping center), he thought that I need a bit exercise to prepare for the labor that we expected would happened on the 17th. By the way, I always had the feeling that Zara would born early. Anyway, we went to Zonarosa and went to a book store to buy a gift card for one of our friend s’s son. Then I suggested that we went to Macy’s to buy new pair of work pants for Phil and then went to Walmart because we were zero in groceries department. There was nothing on the fridge…hehehe!

So, we walked around at Macy’s and I was walking a lot that night and felt that I just couldn’t moved anymore when we got into the car so I told Phil that we would go to Walmart the next day. We went to bed, and about 2-3 AM, I woke up because I felt the contraction. I had the contraction many nights before but it usually just last for couple minutes. That night, I had contractions that really bothered me until I woke Phil up and started complaining. We counted how many minutes each contractions apart then by 5 o clock it was 20 minutes apart. Well, that was it, we couldn’t went back to bed because I had appointment at 9.30 with my OBGYN and Phil had meeting at his office at 9.00AM. I went ahead and took shower and the contractions kept coming on regular basis and by the 7 AM Kaela woke up and Phillip cooked breakfast. I tried to ignore the pain and thought that "Well, if I will have this baby today, I may go to through long labor and better to eat something before we go", so I asked Phillip to make pancake for me. When the pancake was ready, I barely ate it because my stomach was cramping like crazy from the contractions. I finally told him to take me to the doctor, after Phillip has his 9 AM meeting at his office. There was no way I could drive to the hospital with the pain like that.

So, we went to his office, and on the way there, I was thinking, "For God’s sake, here I am whining and making noises every time the contractions come…And I don’t think I can do this at his office while I am waiting" by that time the contractions was 6  minutes apart. The rules is by the time your contractions is 5 minutes apart, you should go right away to the hospital. As each contraction came I squeezed the car’s door handle really hard until at one point I was afraid that I would break it….FYI for those who never experience giving the birth, the contractions which indicate the labor approach is faaaarrrrr moooorreeeee painful that period cramping ….well at least from my experience!

So we went to the doctor, it was almost 9 AM and they just opened, I told the the receptionist about my condition, she told us to go straight to maternity ward, which is in another building. …AAAA………Phillip asked me if I want to go back to the car, but I decided to walk because it would take more time to go to the exit and drove there and walk again. Although, I felt my legs didn’t want to walk at all, I forced my self to walk and finally we got there…Whoaaaa…They staff was very helpful they immediately took me to the room and did sort of checks here and there, the on call OBGYN checked how much my cervix dilated and she said it was 5 cm (it needs to be 10 cm to start the push). Phillip left with Kaela to catch his meeting, we thought he won’t miss the labor because it usually takes time for the cervix to dilate more. So, I changed into hospital gown and lying on the bed and the nurse started to give me an IV. My God, since I didn’t drink enough that morning, she had a hard time to find my vein. She poked here and there while apologizing for the pain, I was…" Yeah…helooo…when you will stop sticking the needle into my skin…" Finally, after 3rd times poked the needle, she found the spot!!

As the checking progress, my contractions became more painfully, it took the nurse’s concern how I would handle the pain after my water broke, so she asked me whether I need Epidural or not. I was brave enough to say "No..at the moment…." (I had an epidural procedure with Kaela, and I was still in pain for each contractions) so at that time I thought "What the heck..there is no use to ask epidural if the pain is only a bit different).

But then, as time progressed, I realize that I wasn’t that strong or say lucky enough to have natural labor. Even though I tried to do some visualization (imagine the ocean waves wash out the pain from my body) it didn’t work at all, and I really didn’t want to pass out at the time to push the baby out, so I finally asked them to give me an epidural. Wow….they worked so fast!! I’m really glad that I chosed this hospital (St.Luke’s Northland Hospital), the team worked very efficient with time. The doctor who would gave the epidural came within couple minutes, and he seemed to know that I was worry about the pain (duh??…after those contractions??….). He told me to bend down and hold the pillow when he numb my back with some tapes, then he examined my spine, I had to stop him not to give the injection when I felt the contraction because he told me not to move when he would insert the needle to my spine. Well, then I felt a sting hot quick pain on my lower back, but then everything was so peacefully and calm……THE CONTRACTIONS pain is went away…..It was like finally the waves from the ocean really came and washed the pain away…AMAZING…..Epidural is rock!!! The only thing happened to me after the shot is a strong headache and pressure on my head for 30 minutes and then they disappeared.

Phillip came just after that, I was cheering at him like nothing was happening. I kept on talking even  when the chart of the level of contractions reach up to 100, I wasn’t aware at all. I also wasn’t felt anything when they insert a wood stick through my vagina to break my water or when they put a catheter inside to hold the urine…

Then the doctor came and also my mother in law, who supposed to take care of Kaela that day. The doctor checked again and I already dilated for 9 cm. We were chatting when I finally felt something tingling on my pelvis…something felt ready to come out. At first I ignore it but then it came back, so I called the nurse. She checked again and said"..Yes..this is the time…you are ready….".

The doctor came back, and mom took Kaela out to have lunch. They made the bed as a table for labor and brought all the equipment into the room and the whole time I just watching with a little bit nervous (I had to push for almost 45 minutes in labor with Kaela). So, they lifted up my legs to rest on the side of the bed, told me to hold on my thighs with my both hands. I was like…"What?? I can’t hold Phillip hand and squeezed it as hard as I could so he would feel the pain? This is not fair….at all…" hahaha. Oh Yes, I was seriously thought that, because on the way to the maternity ward, Phillip told me not to squeeze his hand during the labor like I did to him when I was pushing with Kaela….hahahha……So he thought that the hand squeezing was more painfull than labor? Uh uh……

Anyway, the nurse said, "OK..you just had a huge contractions, now take a deep breath and push…..take a deep breath and push….deep breath and push hard," she told me to do that three times between each contractions. At the fourth contractions, I pushed as much as I could until I felt my face ready to blow up….then I felt something release from my pelvic. I saw her….for the first time……I saw my daughter came out …..Allahu Akbar (Allah the Greatest!!). She was naked and looked slummy but she was the most amazing thing I ever witnessed at that moment. They cleaned her up quickly and handed to me to hold for couple minutes then took her back to check the rest. I felt joy and more joys…..

That was it!! It was, pain free and was so easy…And no stitches!!! It felt so good, that I told Phillip I wouldn’t mind to have another baby…hahahha…..!! He wondered where the whole complaining things went when I was pregnant?

Phillip called my mother in law who was in shock to know how fast the labor was. Even the doctor and nurses were proud of me to be able to push that fast. It was 12.38 PM when Zara born, Phillip said Azaan into her ear and made some phone calls.

I was feeling fine and was up to say yes when some friends offered to come to visit me on the same day!! It felt very nice to have people came to see you and the baby and wished you the best and said congratulations…Novi, Lulu, Mbak Anie, Ghita and family, Susanna and family then my in laws came. Jennifer, was so sweet to make special birthday cake for Zara with 0 candle….so that night we had a small birthday party for Zara Helena Coil who just turn 0 year and 6 hours in her new life.

I stayed at the hospital for two days, then went home. On the way home I suddenly cried for no reason. Phillip calmed me down after a while. I just felt nervous and don’t know if I can handle two little humans being (Kaela and Zara) at the same time, and I also so worried that  I would hurt Zara because she was so tiny and fragile (I had the same feeling when I was coming home from the hospital with Kaela). Well, it seems that the Baby Blue’s feeling that often get new mother finally got me. I hope it won’t stay long though!!

Well, I finally be able to cope with Zara. This is the second day I stayed home after hospital. Phillip helps me a lot with house chores since I am in a lot of pain and lack of sleep. He will go back to work on Monday…we will see….how I am going to handle that. Until then….I am happy at the moment and can’t stop say thank you to God for the bless that God gave me to have two healthy and precious daughters.

Gladly to announce the born of:

Ini salah satu kenyataan hidup bagi banyak anak-anak Indonesia, Syaris brnasih baik karena ada keluarga yang mau merawatnya. Tapi bagaimana dengan nasib ribuan         Syarif lainnya? ….(Lucya Coil)

Syaris Nasution (13)
memang tertangkap tangan saat membawa timah pemberat jaring curian yang
harganya Rp 300.000. Akan tetapi, haruskah proses hukum atas anak di
bawah umur itu mengabaikan haknya untuk didampingi pembela? Majelis
hakim akhirnya memang membebaskannya, tetapi siapa peduli masa
depannya?

Bocah-bocah tak beralas kaki dengan seragam sekolah kumal menyambut
Syaris Nasution (13) saat ia kembali ke kampungnya di Sei Baru Hulu,
Kecamatan Panai Hilir, Kabupaten Labuhan Batu, Provinsi Sumatera Utara,
27 Februari lalu. Akan tetapi, Syaris tak menampakkan kegembiraan.
Wajahnya dingin, tanpa ekspresi.

Apalagi sewaktu mendapati rumahnya, rumah petak kayu, tertutup
rapat. Tak ada orang di rumah. Tetangga Syaris mengatakan, ayahnya
pagi-pagi sudah pergi. Ibu dan empat adiknya sudah sebulan pergi ke
rumah kerabatnya di desa lain. Ibunya selalu pergi jika ayahnya yang
sakit jiwa itu kampuh penyakitnya.

Mencuri timah

Dua bulan lalu, tepatnya 19 Desember 2006, Syaris, bocah yang putus
sekolah saat kelas III SD 116914 Sei Baru itu, tertangkap tangan oleh
polisi Sektor Panai Hilir membawa 8,4 kilogram timah pemberat jaring
senilai Rp 300.000-an. Timah itu dicuri dari jaring milik Saloh,
seorang tauke nelayan di Sungai Berombang, Panai Hilir.

Ia dibebaskan hakim dari tahanan LP kelas 2A Lobusona, Rantau Prapat
karena saat penyidikan berlangsung, Syaris tidak didampingi siapa pun,
apalagi penasihat hukum. Padahal, ia ditahan sejak tertangkap tangan.

Hakim menilai, jaksa telah lalai dan tidak cermat dalam menyusun
surat dakwaan, sehingga surat dakwaan dinyatakan batal demi hukum.
Hakim mengacu pada Undang-Undang Perlindungan Anak Nomor 3 tahun 1997
pasal 51 (1), dan KUHAP pasal 56 ayat (1).

Sebelum tertangkap, Syaris telah menjual timah yang didapat dari
temannya M Nur dan Syukur. Ia mendapat bagi hasil Rp 100.000, yang
kemudian ia belikan celana, baju, dan nasi goreng yang langsung
disantapnya.

Berhasil menjualkan timah, Syaris kemudian disuruh M Nur dan Syukur
yang kini masih dicari polisi untuk mengambil timah yang sudah di dalam
karung di belakang Hotel Sei Berombang. Saat membawa timah itulah
Syaris ditangkap polisi.

Tak ada siapa pun yang menemani anak pertama dari lima bersaudara
itu saat menjalani proses hukum. Bahkan, hingga Syaris disidang di
pengadilan.

Ia baru menjadi perhatian dua pekan lalu, ketika terpekur sendirian
menunggu giliran sidang di PN Rantau Prapat. Sejumlah aktivis curiga
karena Syaris mengenakan celana seragam sekolah berwarna merah. Saat
ditanya, ia mengaku sendirian.

Terimpit kemiskinan

"Macam mana anak itu, kemiskinanlah yang membuatnya seperti itu,"
kata salah satu mantan gurunya saat ditemui berkait dengan latar
belakang Syaris. Kemiskinan itu juga yang membuat pertumbuhan bocah itu
tak lagi diperhatikan oleh keluarga dan para tetangga yang kebanyakan
juga miskin.

Kemiskinan juga yang menyebabkan Syaris, dan juga banyak bocah lain
di Sei Baru Hilir terpaksa putus sekolah. Data di sekolah menunjukkan,
setidaknya, 20 persen anak-anak di kawasan itu putus sekolah.

Salah satu alasannya adalah karena tanpa sekolah pun mereka sudah
bisa mendapat penghasilan sendiri. Antara lain dengan menjadi buruh
pembelah ikan asin. Upah mereka Rp 300 hingga Rp 500 per kg ikan asin.

Daripada bersekolah, anak-anak lebih baik bekerja mendapat uang.
Pemikiran itu masih banyak terjadi pada masyarakat setempat. Anak
perempuan yang sudah lulus lebih apes. Satu tahun setelah lulus ia akan
dikawinkan.

Masyarakat Sei Baru kebanyakan bekerja sebagai buruh nelayan. Syaris
Jamrah Lubis, tetangga Syaris mengatakan, jika sedang tidak kambuh,
ayah Syaris mampu bekerja sebagai nelayan. Namun jika "sakit" nya
kambuh, ia hanya marah-marah dan membuat istrinya pergi dari rumah.

Rumah yang ditinggali Syaris bersama kedua orangtua dan empat
adiknya hanyalah sebuah kamar berukuran sekitar 3 x 5 meter yang diberi
sekat. Bagian depan digelari tikar, dan bagian belakang tempat memasak
dan cuci piring.

Tak ada barang berharga di rumah petak itu. Perabot yang terlihat
hanya lemari kayu tua, ember, dan piring kotor. Seonggok kangkung
berada di ember.

Petak yang ditempati keluarga itu adalah rumah dinas guru SD 112217
Sei Baru Hulu yang tidak terpakai lagi, lalu dipinjampakaikan. Rumah
kayu itu dibagi dalam tiga petak. Petak pertama dihuni Rita (18)
bersama suaminya. Perempuan muda yang masih mirip bocah itu telah
memiliki satu anak.

Petak kedua dihuni keluarga Syaris, ayah ibunya berikut empat adiknya. Petak ketiga dihuni sebuah keluarga muda.

Para tetangga Syaris bercerita, Syaris terkenal bandel. Akan tetapi,
mencuri timah adalah hal yang biasa bagi anak-anak di kawasan itu.
Perilaku ini tumbuh subur karena masih ada penadah di kawasan Sei
Berombang, sekitar 3 kilometer dari rumah Syaris.

Karena liputan media, kasus Syaris diperhatikan banyak orang. Para
mantan guru Syaris pun ikut diperiksa. Kasus ini pun telah membuat
seorang Kepala Unit Reserse Kriminal dicopot.

"Pengalaman ini memberi banyak pelajaran bagi kami. Hak anak harus
diperhatikan," kata Kepala Satreskrim Polres Labuhan Batu Ajun
Komisaris Jungjung Siregar.

Meskipun demikian, Kepala Kejaksaan Negeri Labuhan Batu Aditya Warman menyatakan tidak puas atas putusan hakim.

Syaris memang bernasib buram, tetapi secercah harapan kini
terbersit. Sebab, pemberitaan yang gencar di media berhasil mengetuk
hati sebuah keluarga di Rantau Prapat yang akan merawatnya.

Meski demikian, wajah hukum kita yang coreng moreng tetap menyisakan
pertanyaan. Apakah hukum tidak berpihak pada si miskin seperti Syaris?

Source: KOMPAS Online (KCM)